Nika is my childhood nickname and my pen name. I am a professional mother, a lawyer with her own practice. Also, I am a wife and a mother of two small children. Needless to say, my life is hectic, chaotic and beautiful, all at the same time.
We have a blended family as my husband and I were born in two very different parts of the world. After becoming parents our lives changed drastically and with those changes our relationship also changed. We often found ourselves looking back and thinking “what are we doing wrong?”. Well, it turned out, we were doing everything and nothing wrong. Children do not come with an instruction manual and what works with one child it will not necessarily work with the other. Parenting can be frustrating. We were too hard on ourselves and also controlling. We were not letting life happen.
As a professional mother and lawyer I found myself feeling guilty for having a career and not spending enough time with my children. I also found myself without the time to do necessary things like cleaning the house, doing laundry, cooking and taking care of myself. I stopped doing things I enjoyed like reading and writing and spending time with friends. It was at that point that I decided to seek help and change what I thought was wrong. Seeking help was expensive and at times frustrating. However, I have found ways to better myself and finding that balancing scheme that has helped me overcome frustrations and become a better professional and a better mom. Although, I have to admit that sometimes it is still difficult, the difference is that now I realize that the is not the end of the world. I stop and breathe and forgive myself and then continue on.
I hope that you too find balance in your life and I wish is to help you as much as I can. I’m here for you; write to me whenever you want.
Xoxo, Nika!